Lucy’s Amaryllis

“Can I help you?”

I asked the lady who I had watched, walking slowly up the sidewalk in front of me.  She was balancing a large bin on her head.  This seemed unusual.  I saw a lot of this in other parts of the world, but not here in London.

She was older, and wearing a navy uniform of sorts, carrying a purse and wearing a backpack in addition to the large bin she had now rested temporarily on a letter box.

It was after 9:00pm on a Friday night.  The rains from earlier in the day left the sidewalk reflective in the streetlights, a carpet of leaves growing here and there as November had arrived.  Guy Fawkes was already being celebrated, as an incongruous moon peered down upon some distant fireworks.

“Oh no, it is quite light.  Can I give you some of this windfall?” she asked with a heavy accent.

In the bin were a a pile of light-colored flowers – large flowers, all bunched together.

“Do you have a lady who would like some of these flowers?”

Still wearing the backpack, she now set the bin down on the ground.  I was fascinated.  I said, “Yes I do, but she is all the way in the United States!”  I thought this might throw her off, but she replied:  “Well then perhaps you have a neighbor, or a sister or someone?  It is a shame to just pitch them out..”

I agreed to take some, and upon doing so, she handed me these tremendous blooms – just one stalk of pale, paper-thin petals.

But that was not all.

“You must have some ivy.  Come, would it trouble you to go just down Victoria Rise?”  I had a moment’s pause, but then said “of course – can I carry the box?”  She again said, no, that it was light.  And she moved deftly across the street to the corner and down the block.  Along a wall she stopped, put the box down, and peered up an overgrown wall that must have been 10 feet high.

“This is it.  Can you see if the leaves will do?  My eyes are not very good.  I have some scissors…”  Remarkably, she produced a pair of scissors, donned a cloudy pair of glasses, and reached up and began rapidly clipping off strands of the cascading  ivy.

Her name was Lucy.  She worked at a local software development office a few blocks away.  She is a part-time guard there.  I asked where she was from.

“Italy.”

I said I had been to Italy.  She asked where.  The first city I could recall, and from my last trip.

Me.  “Milano.”

Lucy.  “That is the only city that I know.”

Me.  “You are from there?”

Lucy. “Just north of there.”

Me.  “I have been to Lago di Como.”

Lucy.  “THAT is where I am from.”

Me.  “WHY would you ever leave THERE?”

Lucy.  “I am surrounded by mountains, the snow in the winters… there is not much to do.”

I graciously accepted the bunch of ivy she handed me.  She put her scissors and glasses away.  Again I offered to help her with her load.  Again she refused.Lucy's Amaryllis

“I will go home now – I live just there – I will go home, and have a cigarette with my neighbor.  It is nice to see a man who would stop to help a woman.”

I did not know what to say.

Goodnight, Lucy.

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Gaming the System

Some think of games as a pass-time, or what you might choose to do when you are not doing anything serious.  In fact, an alternative to the serious stuff we do most of the time.  Yes, we (people, everywhere) play games for fun.  And ‘fun’ is typically not how we might describe our work, and the challenges we face there.

I am reading Jane McGonigal’s Reality is Broken, and encourage anyone interested in the world of online games and what we can learn from them to do so as well.

Jenny Nicholson, creator of Spent, provides us with a gamer’s entry into modern-day poverty.  An excellent article by Al Lewis sheds light on Ms. Nicholson’s story, and how she makes what is often just an intellectual exercise for many of us who are fortunate to have good jobs become a very real and intense situation.

I played the game for a few rounds and found myself zeroing in on my cash balance toward the end of the month, and feeling the dilemma of choices – food?  Car repair?  Day care?  Doctor’s visit?

The most difficult choice many of us make is something on the order of paper or plastic.  Games present us with an opportunity to be immersed in a staged reality – and in this case a reality that many of us on the outside need to experience just a bit.

Thanks, Ms. Nicholson, and give my regards to my colleagues back in Durham at the Duke CE office in the ATC (a few doors down).

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Mr. G Sings Gospel

Sitting in the guidance office at the end of the week, I listened as some of the staff, exhausted, relayed stories of the challenges at the school; too many children with too many needs; parents, many single parents, struggling to make ends meet AND rise above their own issues to help their children succeed; staff who don’t have time to even get a drink of water during the course of the day, much less have a restroom break.

I did a bit of volunteering to help run the school store that afternoon.  Teachers lined the kids up in the hallway, all their heads craning to see what was on the tables – small toys, decorated pencils, little pieces of candy, cards for ‘special time’ with various teachers.   The kids can buy these items for a certain number of tickets – tickets they have earned during the week for exhibiting good behavior.  They also have an option to bank their tickets.   One volunteer was busy with a massive list of all students, taking note of the number of tickets each child had, and congratulating them on looking forward, thinking about the larger toys they will be able to buy if they save a bit.

The kids were uniformly excited, as elementary kids are, about the prospects.  Fast hands moving quickly across the boxes of goods, eager eyes, tattered clothes, dusty hair.  All with a smile.

After dismissal and the last buses roared away, Mr. G came by the doorway of the counselor’s office.  He is the janitor – an older man with graying hair and beard.  We said hello, and he stammered back his greeting – he has a strong stutter.  We waited patiently as he got his phrases out, him smiling as he spoke, apologetic for the pace.

Some of us launched into celebratory song – for it was the end of an exhausting week.  Mr. G’s eyes lit up.  He was impressed with our attempt (I’d say) at singing an early ’80’s disco tune.  Then, with his broken cadence, he let us know that he, too, was a singer.  I admit feeling awkward at that moment, not wondering where this would lead – a man with such a stutter, pushing the garbage can and broom.  We invited him to share.

He paused, and looked upward, then closed his eyes.

The most beautiful song came from him – perfectly sung, flowing flawlessly and elevating across a range none of us could believe.

Tears welled up in my eyes.  We were all silent when his last note was done, and I stood, gave him a hug, and thanked him.

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